Does 'NO' mean 'yes' or 'let me try harder until the chosen partner says 'yes' or are you being put in the 'friend zone'?
Can all
women say 'yes'? if she says 'yes' will she be portrayed as a prostitute? because if she says 'yes' to 'some' must she be willing to sexually satisfy all the males in the entire planet?
Must all men say 'yes' to any women, especially those women who think they are the only beautiful ones on earth? or will he be portrayed as being 'unmanly' because it is very weird for a man to not be sexually attracted, especially to such a 'hottie'?
If we are friends were friends! Why do you need to complicate your life! I really don't mind redefining 'friendship' for you. Yes some women use this tactic as a way to get to know you better and in order to assure that she wants you. However, if you are in the friend zone for a big number of years, I think she made the decision already. Worst case, communicate!
Many men understand when women say 'no' while enjoying it. Why is that gentlemen? Let me clear that of, it is all because when she says 'yes' she will be called a 's***' and you will go tell all your 'bros' that she is giving 'some'. When in fact, she 'chose' YOU and 'likes' YOU. Not so complicated! On another note 'no' is 'no'.
Many women believe that all men are always 'ON', and OMG what if they think they are so HOT! He must be ON! No Ladies, he might just not feeling it tonight! but same thing...No! He said 'NO'
Women are starting to make the same mistake as men when they specify 'no'. In the end, is it just an 'ego' issue for both genders?
What are the social roles assumed in men and women in contemporary sexually explicit movies and what context are they portrayed? (Brosius et al, 2010)
Modern pornography has involved over time, they now demonstrate many stories behind sexual activities. Brosius states, " [there are] significant increases in the following,
- the frequency of portrayals sex between casual acquaintances
- females characters persuading males into sexual activities
- the performance of fellatio as the initial sexual behaviour among heterosexual partners"(2010).
Over time, there is a decrease in sex between colleagues in a workplace or with a prostitute-client which was very apparent before. As a final point, contemporary pornography continues to portray women as sexually willing and available.
Men's idea and expectations from pornography
The myth
Many single men believe that they will stop watching pornographic movies once they get married because they will have sexual activities whenever they want to. According to many married couples, it is a "Myth".
Stress Relief
Many men use pornography as a stress relief which is clearly a temporary way of dealing with stress. Once they are done, they get stressed again.
Shame
In a marital context, men usually watch pornographic movies secretively. When the wives find out about his secret habit, they mostly feels heart-broken, betrayed and useless. In addition, men are sometimes ashamed of their sexual organ if it isn't like in pornographic movies.
Frustration
Men get frustrated when they do not obtain their expectations built from pornographic movies in their real life. Fantasy? Reality?
Must all men say 'yes' to any women, especially those women who think they are the only beautiful ones on earth? or will he be portrayed as being 'unmanly' because it is very weird for a man to not be sexually attracted, especially to such a 'hottie'?
If we are friends were friends! Why do you need to complicate your life! I really don't mind redefining 'friendship' for you. Yes some women use this tactic as a way to get to know you better and in order to assure that she wants you. However, if you are in the friend zone for a big number of years, I think she made the decision already. Worst case, communicate!
Many men understand when women say 'no' while enjoying it. Why is that gentlemen? Let me clear that of, it is all because when she says 'yes' she will be called a 's***' and you will go tell all your 'bros' that she is giving 'some'. When in fact, she 'chose' YOU and 'likes' YOU. Not so complicated! On another note 'no' is 'no'.
Many women believe that all men are always 'ON', and OMG what if they think they are so HOT! He must be ON! No Ladies, he might just not feeling it tonight! but same thing...No! He said 'NO'
Women are starting to make the same mistake as men when they specify 'no'. In the end, is it just an 'ego' issue for both genders?
What are the social roles assumed in men and women in contemporary sexually explicit movies and what context are they portrayed? (Brosius et al, 2010)
Modern pornography has involved over time, they now demonstrate many stories behind sexual activities. Brosius states, " [there are] significant increases in the following,
- the frequency of portrayals sex between casual acquaintances
- females characters persuading males into sexual activities
- the performance of fellatio as the initial sexual behaviour among heterosexual partners"(2010).
Over time, there is a decrease in sex between colleagues in a workplace or with a prostitute-client which was very apparent before. As a final point, contemporary pornography continues to portray women as sexually willing and available.
Men's idea and expectations from pornography
The myth
Many single men believe that they will stop watching pornographic movies once they get married because they will have sexual activities whenever they want to. According to many married couples, it is a "Myth".
Stress Relief
Many men use pornography as a stress relief which is clearly a temporary way of dealing with stress. Once they are done, they get stressed again.
Shame
In a marital context, men usually watch pornographic movies secretively. When the wives find out about his secret habit, they mostly feels heart-broken, betrayed and useless. In addition, men are sometimes ashamed of their sexual organ if it isn't like in pornographic movies.
Frustration
Men get frustrated when they do not obtain their expectations built from pornographic movies in their real life. Fantasy? Reality?
Women'
idea and expectations of men on sexual activities
Meaning of Masculinity for women
Would a man who wishes to include tenderness during a sexual act be pursued as unmanly? Does size matter? I have to mention that men feel forced about the matter of size. For instance, how is the size of the men' genital portrayed in most pornographic movies? Not so small?
It is a biased expectation because it goes both ways. Women have learnt the matter of size when men have showed them pornography movies in order to understand how to be pleased. Contrarily, heterosexual women paid attention to the men' body type. Oupsie! Many women now start watching porn on their own; must the industry start modifying their movies? As a matter of fact, it is slowly starting to change...
What does all this influence in real life? (ixdaily.com)
What if I state that some women might like " 'normal' size" better, when guys give them pleasure, talk and make them feel comfortable. Rather than 'big' and when men focus on 'let me get that in and go as hard as possible so 'we' mostly 'I' can 'come'. Has she ever? or just you? She probably had xxxxxxxxxxx orgasms in the meantime, before you 'end'. How about the concept of 'faking' ladies! and that quote in the end ' Ouff it was about time...finally done!'
After all, here is what many men believe about sexual activities, " women have it easy when it comes to sex. We just put our [sexual organ] and they get an orgasm; it's guys that do all the work"
What many women believe about sexual activities, "Men will do all the work and it will be over soon"
Let me say something, vaginal penetration or penetration of any kind does not direct to orgasm. Some women have orgasm with a clitoral stimulation. Just like some men love their fellatio slow or fast. Yet, once men realize that clitoral stimulation, some of you tend to use speed; the clitoris is the most sensitive part of the woman's body just like your genital.
And ladies, No he will not do all the work!
Finally, *PLEASURE*, *MUTUALITY*, **RESPECT**, ****COMMUNICATION**** and *DIFFERENT*, might be some useful keywords to understand my point.
In general, women give priority to romantic and bonding aspects of sexual 'love' relationship and deny any sexual or genital aspects, which I would fit into the 'social category' meaning 'with efforts' and 'permanent'. On the other side, men develop a preference for penetration and avoid the bonding aspect, which I would include into the 'natural category' meaning 'without efforts' and 'temporary'. Not surprised if there is a misunderstanding between genders. This article is not to point out the 'bad' on any gender but to try to educate us as much as we can, we are different and we must understand each other (Well I tried my best to avoid emotions lol)
Meaning of Masculinity for women
- Strong
- Sexually active
- Muscled
- Big
- Independent
- Aggressive
- Unemotional
- and many more; it clearly depends on race and culture but in general there are some similarities between societies.
Would a man who wishes to include tenderness during a sexual act be pursued as unmanly? Does size matter? I have to mention that men feel forced about the matter of size. For instance, how is the size of the men' genital portrayed in most pornographic movies? Not so small?
It is a biased expectation because it goes both ways. Women have learnt the matter of size when men have showed them pornography movies in order to understand how to be pleased. Contrarily, heterosexual women paid attention to the men' body type. Oupsie! Many women now start watching porn on their own; must the industry start modifying their movies? As a matter of fact, it is slowly starting to change...
What does all this influence in real life? (ixdaily.com)
What if I state that some women might like " 'normal' size" better, when guys give them pleasure, talk and make them feel comfortable. Rather than 'big' and when men focus on 'let me get that in and go as hard as possible so 'we' mostly 'I' can 'come'. Has she ever? or just you? She probably had xxxxxxxxxxx orgasms in the meantime, before you 'end'. How about the concept of 'faking' ladies! and that quote in the end ' Ouff it was about time...finally done!'
After all, here is what many men believe about sexual activities, " women have it easy when it comes to sex. We just put our [sexual organ] and they get an orgasm; it's guys that do all the work"
What many women believe about sexual activities, "Men will do all the work and it will be over soon"
Let me say something, vaginal penetration or penetration of any kind does not direct to orgasm. Some women have orgasm with a clitoral stimulation. Just like some men love their fellatio slow or fast. Yet, once men realize that clitoral stimulation, some of you tend to use speed; the clitoris is the most sensitive part of the woman's body just like your genital.
And ladies, No he will not do all the work!
Finally, *PLEASURE*, *MUTUALITY*, **RESPECT**, ****COMMUNICATION**** and *DIFFERENT*, might be some useful keywords to understand my point.
In general, women give priority to romantic and bonding aspects of sexual 'love' relationship and deny any sexual or genital aspects, which I would fit into the 'social category' meaning 'with efforts' and 'permanent'. On the other side, men develop a preference for penetration and avoid the bonding aspect, which I would include into the 'natural category' meaning 'without efforts' and 'temporary'. Not surprised if there is a misunderstanding between genders. This article is not to point out the 'bad' on any gender but to try to educate us as much as we can, we are different and we must understand each other (Well I tried my best to avoid emotions lol)
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